Things my mom does that tend to bug me to no end (causing me to instantly act irritable toward her in response) but I'm not sure why they bug me are:
1...when she asks me to do something last minute
2...when she tries to talk to me when I'm on the phone
3...when she asks me to deliver something to her company for her
Analysis of #1:
Perhaps I get bothered by this because I'm not very flexible with my schedule. I know I like to stick to my schedule, but when things come up, I'm not so frustrated with those things, am I? Or maybe it is because I'm trying desperately to make my schedule independent of hers and she assumes that I have nothing else to do and can just wake up that one hour earlier to go do something I hadn't planned on doing that it'll be okay. Or maybe it is because I'm a control freak and don't like my precious schedule messed with. Or maybe I don't like the unknown throwing me off guard. But I don't think that I'm as irritable (and as instantly irritable) with anything else that does this to my schedule but her. Or maybe its just because I don't like to lose sleep.
Possible Conclusion: because I'm trying desperately to make my schedule independent of hers
Analysis of #2:
This I am pretty sure I know why it bothers me. I try not to talk to my mom when she's on the phone. When we were little, she set up this system that we had to put our hand on her shoulder and she would get to us at a good point in the conversation. However, I'm usually on the phone in my room, so when my mom is yelling at me from across the house, she does not know I am on the phone. But it still bugs me when I have to yell an answer back, and then she asks ANOTHER questions and my annoyed tone does not signal to her my annoyance.
Possible Conclusion: because she's being hypocritical
Analysis of #3:
This one still boggles me. Lots of times she asks me to deliver something, I am on the way. My work is right next door. Why not? Its convenient. I still get bothered and annoyed and irritable. Other times, she asks me when I'm not so close by (like school) and its a 10 minute drive out of my way. I should be kind and just deliver it for her. But for some reason, I hate it. It feels like she is taking advantage of me, because I am the only person she can ask. Which is ironic because she warned me against taking care of my friend's cat too much because of the same reason. Isn't she doing the same thing to me? Blah. I should be nicer, I should just deliver the package/take care of the cat without getting all angry that they are messing with what I had originally planned. Or is this intimately related to my anger in regards to issue #1?
Possible Conclusion: inconclusive
Mothers...and I'm going to be just like her when I get old. I know it. Which just makes it worse.
In the end I think it's safe to say that analysis is not necessary. For me, my mother just lends herself to a special reserve pool of irritable attitude whenever her voice lands on my ears. It always seems to come out of nowhere.
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